Today’s Prompt: Think about an event you’ve attended and loved. Your hometown’s annual fair. That life-changing music festival. A conference that shifted your worldview. Imagine you’re told it will be cancelled forever or taken over by an evil corporate force.
WARNING: This piece contains character and storyline spoilers from the April 23rd episode of Grey’s Anatomy.
I can’t be the only one devastated by McDreamy’s departure on Grey’s Anatomy, can I? I haven’t seen anything about it on Facebook. When Will got shot on the Good Wife it was BIG news. Doesn’t anybody care about this one? While it’s true I have been a fair-weathered fan for the past few years it is still a show that has roots in my life. Ten years ago Jimmy, then 13 or 14, heard a song advertising this new show, Grey’s Anatomy, and made sure we watched it. We watched it together for at least a year, maybe 2, until he grew out of it. We loved George, Izzy, McDreamy, Yang, Meredith. Mostly we loved George.
Throughout the years the writer has killed off, or written off a number of characters and each year I lose a little more interest. I watched last night, although admittedly watched very few this season, but having an inkling that Patrick Dempsey was ready to move on I had a feeling they were killing him off. I’m still sad over the whole thing, I know, a TV show but TV shows remind me of other things.
So as I’m crying over McDreamy leaving, and not to take away from the excellent writing of the show, I am once again reminded of Jimmy, laying on the floor in our living room in Fair Oaks, Max by his side, watching (and listening to the music) of Grey’s Anatomy. The event I attended and loved is not the TV show, but the times that the TV show has represented.
Diane and I used to gab about Grey’s, used to, she’s grown out of it too. My sister-in-law and I, the few times we are actually together, have watched the show together. My friend Jean and I were texting last night at how sad we are over the loss of McDreamy. TV shows are just one more way of adding depth to my friendships.
I started watching The Guiding Light when I was nine years old. I watched the Guiding Light until the bitter end in 2009, so like 50 years of my life (give or take) was spent watching that show. I remember vividly, trying to get the TV set up at work so we could watch the very last show. That’s another thing, my co-workers at PPU watched the Guiding Light. I probably got hired because of it!! The end of that show was most definitely the end of an era. I remember watching the show with my mother in the 60’s. I think it was on for 15 minutes after Search for Tomorrow. Anyone remember that? I watched that show as a teenage after school, when I lived in Miami, when I got married, divorced, had my kids, all through my kids school lives. My kids watched that show. They couldn’t help it. It was on right after school. I remember telling them over and over “you know, people really don’t come back from the dead.” One day when Zachary was in college, home for some weekend, he asked something about Roger. I mean cracks you right up. Diane and my sister and I used to talk about the characters like they were our best friends or family. I mean seriously we’d have discussions like they were real. Diane even brought up something one of the characters said that has stuck with her all these years and I have my “Holly” saying I’ve never let go of which is “I talk to everybody about my problems, you never know when the Pizza man will have the thing to say that you need to hear.” Probably not verbatim, but I hold onto the Pizza Man wisdom idea.
I get wrapped up in my TV shows and it’s fun to have friends get wrapped up in them with you. I know McDreamy is just a pretend character who just wants to make movies but I can’t help remembering Jimmy getting me into this show in the first place. It’s really not the show that I will miss, but it’s the times and conversations with my kids and my friends. It’s probably best not to get mixed up in these drama shows in the first place. I should stick with more shows like Duck Dynasty or Myth Busters (two shows that Jorden watches) but I always get sucked into my dramas, with the good (albeit sad) background music. That Shonda Rhimes (Grey’s Anatomy) has a good way of ripping your heart right out with her writing.
Right now I’m into The Good Wife which I still text Diane about from time to time, Phil and I love Outlander although he slept through it last night (hmmm), we watch Secret and Lies, Once Upon a Time, Downton Abbey, Nashville…yea, I know it sounds bad, too much TV, but really it’s fun. It’s fun getting caught up in these pretend lives. Stupid and fun at the same time. I love it.
I’ll miss McDreamy, if I ever watch the show again. Not that I’m mad at it but I was moving on anyway. This show just reminded me about how it all started, where I was and who I was with. Yes an evil master has taken over the shows, it’s called “father time.” It marches on no matter what.